Taking Charge of Your Pleasure, Protection, and Intimacy
When we talk about sexual health, we’re not just talking about avoiding STIs or unwanted pregnancies. It’s about something more expansive—taking charge of your pleasure, protection, and intimacy in a way that feels empowering to you. As Lena Peak (she/they) of Eros Insight Education, formerly of The Expansive Group put it in Episode 30 of Head South Radio, "Navigating sexual health isn't just about getting through it—it's about owning it, feeling it, and making it yours."
Here’s a roadmap to help you do just that.
- How to Understand Your Sexual Health Needs
Start by asking yourself: What does sexual health mean to me? It's more than a trip to the doctor—it's about knowing your body, your boundaries, and your desires. Lena emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, particularly for queer and disabled folks who often have their experiences overlooked or dismissed in mainstream conversations.
So, ask yourself: What makes you feel good? What are your limits? This isn't just about finding answers; it's about being in dialogue with yourself.
- How to Open Up Communication with Your Partner(s)
Sexual health thrives in an environment of open communication. How do you talk to your partner(s) about your needs, desires, and boundaries? Lena dives deep into this in Episode 30, where she discusses the critical role of conversations in maintaining healthy relationships, especially after a positive STI diagnosis. These aren't just talks to have once—they’re ongoing, evolving conversations that build trust and intimacy. If you are STI positive, it may feel like the end, but understanding the stigmas, and educating yourself and your partner are key. In the blog post, destigmatizing STIs, we talk about understanding the stigmas, the effects of stigmas, and how to properly effect change.
Questions to ask your partner(s) include: What are your boundaries? How can we support each other's sexual well-being? And remember, this goes both ways—your partners should be equally invested in these conversations.
- How to Engage with Your Healthcare Provider
Healthcare should be a space where you feel supported and heard, not judged. Lena breaks down some of the misconceptions and stigmas that keep people from accessing the care they need. You deserve a provider who respects your needs and offers comprehensive care tailored to your identity and experiences.
Ask questions like: What screenings are right for me? What contraceptive options are available? How do I keep myself and my partner(s) safe?
- Reflect on Your Sexual Health Routine
Think about how often you check in on your sexual health. Just like physical health, this isn’t a “set it and forget it” kind of deal. Lena reminds us that even in the face of stigma or fear, maintaining a proactive approach to sexual health is key.
Ask yourself: When was the last time I had an STI test? How often do I talk to my partner(s) about our sexual health? Do I feel comfortable asking my doctor the tough questions?
- Take Action: Own Your Sexual Health Journey
Taking care of your sexual health is an active process. It means booking that appointment, starting that conversation, and yes, sometimes, facing those fears head-on. As Lena highlights in our episode, breaking down the stigma around STIs and sexual health is a collective effort, but it starts with you. Prioritize your needs, advocate for yourself, and don’t be afraid to take those steps—no matter how small.
- The Power of Education and Community
Being informed is one of the most empowering things you can do for your sexual health. Stay curious, ask questions, and don’t settle for silence. Episode 30 of Head South Radio offers a deep dive into breaking down societal taboos and reducing stigma. If you want to learn more about navigating intimacy after an STI diagnosis or understanding the legal obligations tied to your sexual health, make sure to listen to Lena Peak’s episode for a wealth of insights.
- Create a Safe Space for Sexual Exploration
Lastly, creating a safe space for yourself—emotionally, physically, and mentally—is crucial. This space allows for exploration, expression, and empowerment. Your journey is yours alone, and it’s worth investing in creating an environment where you feel supported and free to be yourself.
Your sexual health isn't something to be managed in silence or shame—it's a vital part of your overall well-being. So, how will you prioritize it? Start the conversation with yourself, your partner(s), and your healthcare provider today.
For more on navigating the complexities of sexual health with grace, especially in the face of stigma or a positive diagnosis, tune in to Episode 30 of Head South Radio: Destigmatizing STIs with Lena Peak. And to find out more about Lena Peak and her transformative sexuality education, visit Eros Insight Education.
Want to hear more about prioritizing your sexual health? Listen to Head South Radio hosted by our Founder, Cat Meyer. Listen now on Apple Podcast | Spotify | YouTube
