Intimacy doesnât just happen â itâs built. And often, the strongest connections are created through curiosity, conversation, and the willingness to know each other deeper. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, in the early stages of dating, or simply exploring intimacy, the questions you ask each other matter. They open the door to understanding, vulnerability, and deeper pleasure.
Thatâs why weâre so in love with Wonderlust: The Game, a conversation card deck designed to spark thoughtful, playful, and sometimes spicy questions between you and your partner. This deck is a key piece in our  Mindful Intimacy Bundle â paired with Oasis Oil for sensual touch and The S*x You Want by Rena Martine for clear communication around pleasure and desire. Together, these tools are designed to help you slow down, connect, and cultivate more mindful intimacy.
But why do questions like these matter so much in relationships? According to Natassia Miller, the founder of Wonderlust, it's all about creating space for curiosity and connection.
âI've always noticed people mention how easily I talk about s/x and how uncommon that really is. The deck was something that really brought that forward. You have the first level, which is more romantic, the second level, which is spicier, and it's a more tasteful and approachable way to talk about it.â
Why Asking Questions Deepens Intimacy
When was the last time you asked your partner a question beyond, âHow was your day?â or âWhat do you want for dinner?â
Itâs easy to fall into routine when youâre in a relationship â especially when life gets busy. But true intimacy flourishes in the moments where we slow down and get curious. By asking questions that explore your partnerâs thoughts, memories, desires, and fantasies, you create new pathways for connection.
Natassia created Wonderlust with that exact intention in mind â to help couples go beyond small talk and unlock deeper, more vulnerable conversations.
âI think because then it's out in the open, it reminds you to actually talk about s*x more and bring that forward.â
And these questions donât have to be heavy or serious â in fact, some of the best ones are playful, flirtatious, or even spicy. The goal isnât to get the right answer but to create a space for curiosity, connection, and presence.
10 Questions to Spark Deeper Connection
Here are 10 of our favorite questions from the Wonderlust deck (available in our  Mindful Intimacy Bundle ) to ask your partner â whether youâre curled up in bed, enjoying a lazy Sunday morning, or winding down after dinner.
𬠠Whatâs something youâve always been curious about trying in the bedroom, but havenât yet? Â
𬠠What song instantly makes you think of me? Â
𬠠If we could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be? Â
𬠠Describe a time when you felt deeply connected to me. Â
𬠠Whatâs one thing you think I donât know about you â but you wish I did? Â
𬠠If we designed our perfect âno distractionsâ date night, what would it look like? Â
𬠠Is there a part of your body you wish received more attention? Â
𬠠What's a fantasy youâve never shared with me? Â
𬠠When was the last time you felt butterflies around me? Â
𬠠Whatâs one thing we could do this week to feel more connected?Â
Pro Tip: Light some candles, pour a glass of wine, and take turns pulling cards from the deck. Let the questions flow, and see where the conversation takes you.Â
Bringing Mindful Intimacy into Your Relationship
Mindful intimacy is about more than just physical connection â itâs about being present with your partner, listening deeply, and allowing yourself to be seen. When you intentionally carve out time to connect (whether through conversation, touch, or play), you build a relationship that feels exciting, grounded, and deeply satisfying.
Pairing these conversations with intentional touch can take your connection even deeper. Thatâs where  Oasis Oil comes in â a luxurious body and massage oil designed for sensual, skin-to-skin connection. Whether you're offering your partner a back rub, gliding your hands over their body, or simply savoring slow touch, this oil turns physical connection into a grounding, intimate experience.
And when you're ready to take things beyond the questions? The S*x You Want by Rena Martine (also included in our Mindful Intimacy Bundle) is filled with practical tools for clear communication around desire, pleasure, and boundaries. Because the more you talk about it â the better it gets.
âWith the card deck specifically, it's the card that asks the question, not you, which I think takes a lot of pressure off of your back.â
The beauty of the Mindful Intimacy bundle? It's more than products â it's conversation starters, connection tools, and the permission to explore. Weâve featured every creator from this bundle on Head South Radio â dive into their episodes below:
đď¸ Ep. 51:  Natassia Miller â Founder of Wonderlust on how asking better questions creates better connection.
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đď¸ Ep. 52:  Mindful Intimacy with Cat Meyer & John Freeman â Our host, Cat Meyer, plays the Wonderlust game with her partner. Expect honest, sweet, and spicy moments.
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đď¸ Ep. 55:  Rena Martine â Author of The Sx You Want* on how clear communication unlocks the pleasure you desire.
